One of the key benefits of Neuro-Linguistic
Programming (NLP) is that it that it enables you to improve how you manage your
emotional and physical state. Rather than waiting for events to affect how you
feel, you can, to a greater extent, choose how you feel. This can both help you
enjoy life more and improve your ability to influence others.
When influencing others it is worth considering the
likely impact of your state on your audience. If youre curious, honest,
tenacious and passionate you will have a very different impact than you would
by being arrogant, uncertain, bored and disinterested. It is often worth first
considering what you want your audience to do and to feel and then consider the
most important states and flow of states to achieve this. The main ways of
managing your state are through:
1) Memories and imagination
2) Physiology and breathing
4) Belief Change
5) Meditation and letting go
The best NLP Courses will enable you to explore for yourself how to improve how you manage
and change your own states and the states of others. The following gives you an
introduction to some of the best approaches.
Memories and Imagination
When you think back to a time when you were in a
particular state, and remember the specific components of your memory.
Particularly what you saw, what you heard, what you felt and maybe what you
could taste and smell. This process will normally strengthen the memory and
enable you to bring back that state to the present. When youre unable to
remember a memory relating to a particular state, you can use your imagination
to create a similar effect.
Physiology and Breathing
Your state is often related to your posture and your
breathing. Develop an awareness of how you sit, or stand when youre in
particular state. Develop an awareness of how your breathing changes in
particular states, whether youre breathing from chest or abdomen and the speed
or slowness of you breath.
If youre in a bad state for any reason be aware
that some deep breaths and a gentle stretch may be all thats needed to move
you into a more useful state
The questions we ask ourselves and others will tend
to lead us into different states. The questions What am I going to do to
achieve something useful today? And Whats the most useful thing that I can do
next? are likely lead to useful states. The questions Why did I fail? And Why
am I unsuccessful? are likely to lead to negative states.
In addition, the tone of voice that we use with
ourselves and others when we ask questions may impact state more profoundly
than the question itself. Awareness and the ability to change our tone of voice
when we speak to ourselves and others is a key element in communication and
Sometimes life is difficult. However, if we can find
a positive meaning in our experiences and situations it can make a significant
difference to our state. It may not change the external situation but it will
change how we feel about it, and in turn what we learn from it. So if were
going through something we cant change its worth asking the questions – What
can we learn from it? And How can it help us in some way?
Meditation and Letting Go
Traditional meditation is a way of accepting and
letting go of what in the past would have led us into negative states. Meditation
can be as simple as sitting for ten minutes with a straight back, and simply
focusing on breathing. While we focus on our breathing we accept any thought
and distraction that naturally occurs, and simply have to gently focus back on
our breathing when we realise weve been distracted. Meditation builds up an
inner strength that can protect us from negative states.