Having self confidence is to have faith in oneself and
whatever you wish to achieve in life, placing trust in believing that you
possess the right abilities to handle problems that occur in your life. If this
is too much for you to take, fret not; self confidence can be developed.
Self confidence is a belief in yourself and what you want in
life, based on an implicit trust in your own abilities to deal with the things
that come your way in life. You will find that with greater self confidence,
you will have a more positive mindset and greater faith in your actions and
choices, in spite of what others may have to say about you. Self confidence can
be developed, so fret not if you find that you are lacking in it. With some
practice and the following 5 steps, you will find yourself building up your
Step 1: Avoid negative statements about yourself
The comments that you make about yourself, or to yourself,
has a great impact on your self confidence. If you are thinking negative thoughts,
it will lead to negative feelings about your situation and yourself. You may
not realize it, but negative or self deprecating comments over time will erode
your self confidence.
Step 2: Identify your own issues
I advise people that the above were my own personal issues
and that each individual has to identify there own. Think about your strengths
and how you can play to them, as well as your weaknesses and how you can
improve upon them. Do not let your ego get in the way of over inflating your
strengths, nor in downplaying your weaknesses.
Step 3: Self Affirmation
Just as it is important to avoid negative thoughts, positive
thoughts are encouraged and have a uplifting effect on your emotions and
confidence. Make a list of your accomplishments, no matter its magnitude, and
acknowledge them. The power of the mind cannot be underestimated. If you desire
something strongly enough, let it be the motivating force.
Step 4: Believe in yourself
Beliefs are things that we know to be true, and accept as
true without needing to question or consider it. Believe that you can do what
someone else can do, and you will be able to achieve it as well. In order to
achieve such a level of self confidence for the previous statement to be true,
you must first start believing in yourself so as to empower it. Hence,
controlling what you believe is the key towards creating a life that you wish
The key to building self confidence is to believe in
yourself. If you have trouble trying out something new, it is not a bad thing
to initially stick with what youre familiar with. This will help you feel more
confident, and give you the assurance to go ahead onto something new. By going
into something new with a positive attitude and belief in your abilities, you
will find it easier to be confident and act confident. Over time, you will find
that your comfort zone will have increased significantly, as will your self
Step 5: Perseverance
There will always be setbacks in life, and we must learn to
be more resilient in order to bounce back from these. When things do not go the
way you planned, it is alright to be tough with yourself if you were to blame.
The crux is not in just taking or laying the blame, but in figuring out what
went wrong and how you can fix it. If the problem is something outside the
scope of your control, it was not your fault in the first place.
Do not let the downs in life get to you. Take the time to
think through what happened, and how you can avoid it from happening again. If
you feel that you are in need of a confidence boost, speak to your friends and
your family to put things in perspective.
Take the time to put these 5 simple steps into practice, and
you will be well on your way to building up your self confidence. Meet your
problems head on and learn how to deal with different situations. It is alright
to be afraid, or to fail, the key is to keep moving forward and working on
improving your self confidence.